An unrealistic brunette in a short black dress, barely covering her waist at the moment, squirms in a suspension from the ceiling, skillfully tied with ropes. Knots and weaves effectively lie on her to the limit curved body, outlining the shoulders, chest, buttocks. Her hands are tied behind her back, her legs are stretched in a vertical split: the right is tied under the knee and fixed raised up, the left is free. It is impossible for a woman in ordinary life, if she is not a gymnast or a ballerina, to take such an open and unprotected pose. Voluntary witnesses of this erotic scene, including myself, are trying to catch what the girl feels - pain, pleasure, fear, is she looking forward to an orgasm? But her head is down, her hair hiding her emotions.

Silent pause lasts no more than ten seconds. The tension in the room is so powerful that it seems that the furniture begins to crackle. Only the one who tied her has the right to approach the girl. He, according to the rules of the game (for now I will call this action so), bears full responsibility for it and decides how to proceed. Stop and turn this sensual performance into a prelude to sex or tighten the ropes even tighter - and then it will hurt her, just as much as she will allow - the connected party has the right to a safe word, and, as it turned out, it is desirable that it be as sobering as possible (for example, "fishermen!").

Alek Zander (aka Alexander Sokolov), one of the best shibari masters in the CIS, and his model Tatyana create something transcendent in terms of human capabilities with the help of a rope. The most complicated harnesses, stretching, suspensions... If you don't go into what kind of load Tatyana is experiencing at this moment, you can enjoy the spectacle, it is cooler than the performance of Cirque du Soleil. I wonder how I would feel if I allowed myself to be bound in such a position? Do not know. Perhaps excitement. Perhaps aggression - if you do not make allowance for the show effect and objectively look at what is happening, Tanya resembles a doe caught in a trap.

Another second, Alec brushes her hair away from Tatiana's face, lifts her head up, kisses her on the lips, and then slowly runs his hand between her slender legs. Tatyana smiles, lets out a deep groan, and seems to be looking through him without blinking. In her eyes I read passion, pain and pleasure. Later, they will explain to me that the girl was in a state of “subspace” - this is the name of a light trance caused by pain (from the pressure of the rope), in which brain activity slows down, a person loses the sense of time, and a large amount of endorphins is released into the blood. Many thrill-seekers who have long and skillfully practiced shibari are looking for this state - as an alternative to orgasm.

Once in the Middle East, in a private club, I happened to watch how (unfortunately, in captivity) a female of the world's largest spider, Theraphosa blondi, is hunting, capable of easily swallowing a medium-sized bird. So, the scope of her limbs at the time of the attack cools the blood, but at the same time hypnotizes, and the scene is very similar in emotions to this one. Doe caught in a trap? No, perhaps Tanya is Theraphosa Blond.

With these thoughts in mind, I pack my bags and drive home from the club where I spent about six hours learning the technique of tying and knotting. Reporting is not customary to start from the end, but in the case of shibari, it is possible: in this art, much is interconnected is not as obvious as it seems.

A woman with a rope does not need caresses

Actually, I never seriously planned to get involved in bondage. But recently, discussing another topic for an essay, and at the same time the just-released sequel “50 Shades Darker” (a continuation of the film “50 Shades of Grey”), she told sexologist Ekaterina Lyubimova about the statistics that she discovered from her colleagues at Marie Claire Australia. According to surveys, 70 percent of Australian women dream of being tied up during sex.

“This does not surprise me,” Katya supported the topic. – At my trainings for many years, I heard from almost every second girl that she would like to feel the dominance of her partner over herself. The fantasy of being immobilized is a woman's dream of submission. A well-fixed woman does not need foreplay, and at the same time, her defenselessness excites a man sometimes more than any foreplay.

It sounded convincing. A day later, I stood on the threshold of a chamber Moscow shibari club, closed from strangers, designed for no more than twenty people. Spacious halls (there are several of them), people talking in an undertone, soft mats on the floor and light twilight - the atmosphere inside reminded me of an elite island spa, with the difference that this space is full of wooden poles and strong frames under the ceiling, on which dozens of rings with carabiners. Not a single google or yandex map has officially indicated that people who are passionate about the philosophy of Japanese bondage gather in this yellow brick house built at the beginning of the last century from time to time. Judging by the appearance and the cars parked at the entrance (including those with drivers), everyone who enters here in ordinary life can manage a large international company.

There are no special conditions for entering the club. Alec Zander turned out to be a well-known "knitting teacher" - at least thirteen years ago he wrote the first shibari textbook in Russian (it is still the only one). “Come alone,” he told me over the phone. – You don’t need a partner to learn shibari techniques, your own body will be enough for you. Dress? Any comfortable. If you want aesthetics, wear a loose skirt. However, we don’t faint from the lack of clothes either.”

Be careful, you can get burned

In a cashmere turtleneck and jeans, I take a comfortable position of an observer. The first part of the training is a theoretical case. “When you compare examples of shibari and European bondage, you get the feeling that a European was in a very big hurry somewhere,” Zander explains (by the way, shibari in Japanese means “to tie, tie”). - The rope is wound somehow, everything looks like it was done on the run between the office and the gym. The Japanese are in no hurry. He is always interested in how exactly he does this or that thing. It doesn’t matter if you tie a person to perform some action on him or in order to straighten his posture - in shibari you do it deliberately.

The second feature of the Japanese technique is that the bondage is highly eroticized. Strappings are always performed in such a way as to emphasize the sexuality of the model, perhaps outline her genitals, stick out her chest. Many mistakenly consider shibari to be an ancient samurai art. I also heard something about it. But I find out that the art of martial Japanese binding is called hojo-jutsu, and shibari only borrowed some techniques from there. In relationships with a partner, a shibari master exists within the framework of a parent-child relationship, and the parent is necessarily kind.

The main tool in shibari is a twisted rope made of natural material (linen or jute). Although you can work with what is convenient and what knots can provide: ropes, laces, bandages, scarves, silk ribbons. The advantages of natural material are indisputable - any weave of such a rope is in itself a knot that holds well. In addition, natural rope is more pleasant to the body (try quickly pulling a long synthetic lace through a clenched fist and feel how it burns). The most common rope diameter is 6–8 mm. This is a compromise between the convenience of the shibari master and his partner: the thinner the rope, the more painful the models, the thicker, the more difficult it is for the binder's fingers.

Connects more than sex

The first and main “straight knot” (the most reliable, and most importantly, if you pull the rope in the right direction, it can be easily untied) I am offered to tie on my own leg. Indeed, everything is not so difficult if you catch the direction, but it doesn’t work the first time. “You got a stupid knot - it can’t withstand the load, so it’s considered dangerous,” explains Zander, and in three counts, I didn’t even have time to notice, deftly and confidently ties my legs in several girths.

“Gotcha! Now they will show you what shibari is in suspension,” my neighbor, an experienced businesswoman from Yekaterinburg, has fun. We met Svetlana a couple of minutes before the start of classes. She managed to tell that she came to the club for new knowledge - her husband did not mind, but stayed at home.

“Shibari in suspension is aerobatics,” Svetlana now says seriously. - But sensible beginners do not dare to practice - it is very easy to injure a partner. From a fall due to an ineptly fixed rope to an injury to the radial nerve of the hand (in this case, the hand can be taken away for several months). My husband and I decided for the first time only after a year of training.

While Zander teaches us how to tie loops, intercept them with a straight knot, tie a knee, chest, hips and, most importantly, tie hands correctly (one of the important rules of shibari: while a person has free hands, the session has not begun), Sveta tells me how bound the woman is truly free. Does this mean that she is freed from complexes, stops thinking about the figure with its extra folds, real and imaginary shortcomings? Quite. Indeed, from the point of view of Japanese aesthetics, there is no standard of beauty - a man who knits a female body looks at the picture as a whole, he does not see flaws.

“But, most importantly, shibari gives me complete freedom - I switch off from problems - and unconditional trust in my husband: at this moment I delegate all responsibility for myself to him,” Sveta answers my question. After the session, when everything went well, according to her, she has a strong respect for her husband. She realizes that it was not in vain that at one time she chose him as her husband.

“The theme of shibari is often addicted to couples where a woman is in the lead. She earns more or is initially higher in social status. For example, I have been supporting a family for ten years. Thanks to my husband for being there. We survived three crises, each filed for divorce in the process - we could not understand where the passion in our bedroom had gone. And we found it."

An interesting detail: the husband does not allow other men to bind Svetlana. “You must understand: the rope brings partners together much more than sex. A person who has successfully connected you at least once becomes a family, ”she explains, not without pleasure.
Our conversation is of interest to Olga. She came to the training with her husband, and while he carefully studies the next harness scheme, in which a woman can be fixed in the most open position, I learn a lot of interesting things about him. Olga and Viktor tried shibari a couple of years ago, starting with the simplest positions: hands immobilized behind the back, ankles fixed at the shin... At some point, the husband got carried away, tying Olga from head to toe. “It was a sea of ​​aesthetics, a sea of ​​eroticism,” she admits. - Under the pressure of the ropes, my skin became numb, it seemed that I was losing sensitivity “outside” and gaining it “inside”. After we had the best sex of our lives - I experienced a very vivid orgasm.

"Congratulations! Zander claps his hands loudly several times. – It is impossible to teach more for the first time, and it is not necessary. Having worked out the skills to automatism, you can easily repeat any harness and pose, since there are a lot of them on the Internet. You need to knit quickly and confidently. And remember safety precautions.

Some couples came here not for the basics, but for the practice of "suspension". And while they are passionate about the process, I am trying to understand if the rope is able to walk on my skin, replacing a set of foreplay? Do I want to come here not alone? I don't know... I see the faces of my new acquaintances: they have found and practice quite a bold sex therapy - shibari brings them together.

Thoughts are confused, and attention is attracted by a curious family tandem - she is a blue-eyed brunette, a beauty of about thirty-five, he looks like Steve Jobs - restrained, smart and wearing glasses. The wife, lying on her back, laughs loudly: her husband tied her hands, tied a rope around her right leg, fixing it in a suspension. "Darling, what's next?" - the girl is having fun.

“Laughter betrays a frivolous attitude towards her husband in this woman,” Christina, a shibari master and a psychologist by training, explains to me in a whisper. She obviously doesn't mind being tied up by someone more brutal, like Alec. This couple has a long way to go...
Hearing laughter, Zander approaches the openly flirting woman, silently removes the rope from the wall, gathers her hair into a ponytail, wraps it in a knot and fixes her head by the ponytail in a suspension. "Wow!" - the “victim” manages to exhale, closes his eyes and, finally, stops laughing, giving her husband the freedom to improvise.

Will they untie you? Sure?

“Of course, shibari can be used as a prelude to sex - with enough imagination, you can use anything. But only that which cannot be dispensed with will tell about the essence,” Zander ironically. – Is it possible to do in shibari without sex? Can. Without caresses? Can. It is possible without prettiness, without sensuality - it is also possible. You can't do without a rope. Without one person making another helpless." “If you want an easy sexual game with ropes, if your partner ties you up, then he will untie you when you play enough,” he asks loudly at the audience, “right? Will untie? Are you sure? When women who are tired from work, bossy men, bored couples come to me, I accept them and tie them what they want - this is my job. But I do shibari with those who are tired of masks, of insincerity. With those who yearn to give."

I understand what Alec is talking about. But I do not want to develop this topic. I'm not interested and I don't feel like myself. Playing with pain is anti-sex for me. But the aesthetics and beauty of shibari harnesses haunts. The foreplay of bound hands (handcuffs - no; ribbon, handkerchief or rope - yes) and a silk bandage over the eyes excites the mind, perhaps I'm ready to try. in homeopathic doses. And, of course, now there is a bestseller in my collection of stories that can keep the attention of others for as long as it takes. Showing on the shoelaces how the simplest knot is knitted, I sincerely enjoy the understanding that every time I seem to “tie” the interlocutor with stories about shibari. In polite society, one does not talk about the weather, especially when there is an occasion to discuss something more interesting.

Women's opinion

Sex coach Ekaterina Lyubimova: Contemplation of a bound woman prolongs potency

The female sexual bondage fantasy is the most common reality. In ancient times, a woman needed an alpha male - a cruel warrior, a real predator, hunter, enslaver. The more enemies he could kill, the more likely it seemed that his offspring and his woman would be safe. In fact, the more terrible and merciless a man was, the more comfortable a woman was with him. There was no talk of any subtle feelings. Hundreds of centuries have passed, but this instinct has not disappeared anywhere. Only in the modern world, a man does not need to kill a mammoth, and we marry quite decent and, most importantly, kind guys. However, instinct tells me: show me your strength, let me feel that you are a beast, that you can be dangerous. When a woman is bound, due to the feeling of helplessness, any touch of a partner is perceived as a special act of power and becomes additional sexual stimulation. The man appears to be a sexually arousing stranger.

Sensations are even more aggravated if she is wearing a mask or her eyes are blindfolded. The process of deprivation enhances the sensations of the skin and sharpens the sensitivity to the situation itself.

In classic shibari, the ropes are tied in such a way as to stimulate the nipples, clitoris, vaginal vestibule, and the woman's groin. This is truly the art of arousal. For example, there are poses in which it is convenient for a woman to tease and tickle the clitoris, and then penetrate vaginally into the exhausted partner. At the same time, the position guarantees the opportunity to immediately go to oral sex. In classic shibari, it is believed that even the mere contemplation of a bound woman prolongs male potency for many years.

Position "Female boar"

The man ties his partner's arms and legs separately. The woman lies on her back and puts her wrists as close to her ankles as possible. The man ties his ankle and wrist together. The woman is in a fixed position with her legs apart. From the back position, the man can turn the woman over into doggy style.

Position "Frog"

This is a position in which the ankles are tied to the hips in such a way that the woman assumes a position similar to the crouching frog position. The legs of the model are maximally apart. The wrists are tied behind the back. A man ties a woman's legs. If in this position the partner puts the model on his back, this will provide him with the deepest possible penetration. A man can also easily start with an irrumation by taking a woman by the head.

History of Shibari

Seiyu Ito is considered the patriarch of the Japanese binding method. At the beginning of the 20th century, he actively painted and photographed “punished women” (in the Japanese interpretation, a bound woman is a punished woman), including his model wife, for which he earned fame and a reputation as a subtle aesthete in his homeland.

The Second World War made adjustments: for a long time, the Japanese had no time for photographs and ropes. The period of the erotic renaissance began in the 60s and 70s, it is associated with the work of the master of shibari (or kinbaku, which is the same thing) Siege Eikichi - he developed the technique, gave lessons and left behind many artifacts in the form of photos and videos that were successful in Europe and Russia.

The first thing to do is to discuss with your partner how ready he is for the experiment. Agree on which of you will tie and who will act as a model. Secondly, you should not experience pain during the game. If you feel that your bound hands are becoming very numb and numb, it is better to stop (by the way, remember about softer accessories for binding). An important component is a mask or tape on the eyes.

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Bondage, or in other words, bondage, is the simplest type of sadomasochism. In French, sexual fettering is called "ligottage" (from the word ligotage - slavery or dependence). Many people think that tying up a partner in sex is a very exciting thing, but they are afraid to try. And, by the way, for a man to look at his charming captive causes an unusual surge of excitement, and for a woman, the lack of the ability to move can lead to a wonderful experience of getting a gradual orgasm.

How to tie a girl

So, let's look at how to properly tie a girl with a minimum of inconvenience and damage.

One of the methods of tying, which is commonly called "brothel", involves tying all of the girl's legs and arms to each leg of the bed. It is best to put one or two pillows under the girl's hips for greater comfort. This type of bondage does not require special dexterity, but for many such a deployed posture does not allow reaching the peak of pleasure. For this reason, there are other ways: Spread legs and hands tightly tied behind the back, tied to a pole or chair, and so on.

Very popular Japanese sexual bondage method which is called shibari. The object of shibariya is always young beautiful girls, this practice is very popular in the art of photography. There are 2 types of shibari:

• Karada (the torso is tied with a cord in the form of a grid);
• Shinju (a cord is tied around the chest, which resembles a rope bra).

The main points for binding, due to which sexual desire is enhanced:

• Wrists;
• Elbows (however, do not force them behind the girl's back, because it can be broken);
• ankles;
• Big fingers and toes;
• Soles of the feet.
• How to tie

In terms of the choice of material that will be used for binding, all lovers of hard and soft BDSM will act according to their taste: elastic bands, leather laces, flaps from clothes, soft rope, silk cords - everything will do. Some original subjects may use actual straitjackets to get more entourage, so that's fine. Some will use rough chains, shackles or handcuffs, but in this case, of course, you need to make sure that the iron cannot cause infections or allergies on the skin. In addition, rigid latches will not create the necessary compression, they are very uncomfortable to lie on, and in emergency cases they cannot always be opened quickly. You can even tie the girl with a band-aid or tape, but then it will be quite unpleasant to tear off the adhesive tape from her.

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In addition to binding legs, arms, breasts and chests, many supporters of hard sex can tie their partner's mouth and eyes. But if a girl's eyes can be blindfolded with any scarf that comes to hand, then you have to be very careful with your mouth. First, you need to take care of the purity of what you plan to put in your captive's mouth. In no case do not rush to shove between her teeth a rag soaked in pesticides or a rubber ball that has previously been in an unknown place. Just practical and clean! Secondly, you should not completely deprive the girl of the opportunity to speak, the girl should always have the opportunity to give a sign if something went wrong. Let it be, for example, a triple knock with a free fist, or a moan or grunt using Morse code, but there should always be a conventional sign. Also, in no case do not tie anything around the neck, even if she asks you about it. If she wants this so much, then lightly strangle her with your hand, but only there should not be any cords on her neck!

If we talk about hanging a bound girl, then only real masters of BDSM do it. Correctly fixing your partner, and then also raising her on hooks or some other installation in such a way that there is no danger to the limbs or organs - this must be learned. Also, for the sake of your own safety, you should not practice this BDSM method with unfamiliar people or the topic of who is in a state of intoxication. Also, you can not leave your partner for more than 20 minutes.

If you want to see clearly, how to tie a woman video showing a master class on how to do this will provide you with such an opportunity.

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In order to properly tie a girl, it is not necessary to study books, this is primarily a philosophy and a creative approach. It's always fun to try something new or aesthetically pleasing, like shibari (Japanese bondage). The most important thing is the beauty of the lines. It is enough to learn how to make a few knots, and everything else is your imagination.

The quality of the rope and its tension are of great importance, it should hurt, not sag, but force the body to be in tension. The pain threshold here is the limiter. But in general, everything is very individual and in each case is unique.

Shibari - background

How to properly tie a woman

The tradition of tying women originated in Japan, a country known for its quirky relationship culture. Since ancient times, the rope in Japan has been given special importance, considering it a symbol of the connection between man and God. Most of the jewelry was tied with a rope, and almost all elements of clothing were tightened with it.

In the XV-XVI centuries, when the country was torn apart by feudal wars, a special technique for tying captives appeared - hojo-jutsu. The bottom line was that the nodes were located at special points of the body, with the help of which it was possible to achieve complete paralysis of the enemy’s body or even his slow strangulation.

During the Edo period (1600-1868), when the wars ended and the period of economic prosperity began, the tradition migrated to the everyday life of the Japanese. It was then that the first theatrical performances began to appear, in which specially trained masters tied the girls for the fun of the public. A little later, special clubs began to open, where the art, called shibari, began to spread actively. Masters have always been distinguished by the fact that they emphasized the skillfulness of the harnesses and theatricality of actions, so that an untrained person would never be able to repeat their work.

Basic elements of shibari

Hands tied in front

The rope folded in half is pulled into the stirrup loop. After that, the loop is put on the closed palms of the girl. The loop is tightened, then the ends are tied with a simple knot. In a similar way, you can tighten, if necessary, and one hand.

Legs tied to knees

The stirrup loop is put on the leg. After that, the captive's legs are bent at the knees, and the rope is made several turns around the ankle. The rope is held under the coil and begins to encircle the leg in the opposite direction. The final strapping ends with a knot.

Hands tied behind back

A loop tied with a stirrup knot is threaded into the left hand. After that, the rope goes over the left shoulder, encircles the chest and reaches the right wrist. The main thing here is to pull the rope harder to fix the position of the hand. Then it goes around the right hand and is carried out in the opposite direction, close to the previous turn. The rope comes to the left wrist and is similarly fastened there. The operation is repeated several more times, then the rope is fixed with a knot on the right hand.

Tied feet

The ankles are crossed, after which they are connected by the same stirrup knot. The rope wraps around the lower leg several times and is fixed with a knot just below the knees. The rest of the rope is pulled between the legs and down to the first knot. Then the rope again goes between the thighs, but in the opposite direction. After several turns, the rope is knotted. The main thing is to pull the rope all the time so that the legs are pressed as tightly as possible to each other.

How they dealt with it in the movies:

CAUCASUS CAPTIVE, 1966

Coward, Dunce, and Experienced seem to have first-hand knowledge of the shibari culture, or have randomly reproduced this Japanese technique. All loops neatly encircle the captive, and in the end they are skillfully tightened on the chest. It turned out to be very reliable: Nina, no matter how much she resisted, could not get out, and even Shurik needed a lot of effort to untie at least one of her hands.

CAUCASUS CAPTIVE, 1966

LINK ME, 1990

Ricky skillfully took advantage of the environment - in order to deprive the girl of the opportunity to move, he simply tied her to the bed. A few loops on the legs and arms - and now it makes no sense to call for help. As a result, the captivity only benefited the girl - she fell in love with her kidnapper and went to him (which, although fiction, can serve as some argument in a dispute about linking with feminists).

LINK ME, 1990

MOROZKO, 1964

Nastenka was tied up in an old-fashioned but quite reliable way: they wrapped loops around a tree in the forest. Perhaps the methods of the villagers will seem a little clumsy, but they certainly work flawlessly.

MOROZKO, 1964

CARRIER, 2002

The villains primitively tied Lai's hands, sealed her mouth and placed her in a bag. Some freedom in movements, which the bandits thoughtlessly left to the captive, eventually saved her life: having noticed the moving load, the protagonist found her.

CARRIER, 2002

BUFFY, 1997–2003

An excellent example of how to tie girls without unnecessary wisdom: the mouth is sealed, the arms are twisted behind the back, the ankles are closed and tightly pressed against each other. In this position, the girls can only roll on the floor. The main thing is to watch if they have hidden a knife, a pin or any other sharp object in their sleeve.

The critical places where contraction enhances sexual sensation are the wrists, ankles, elbows (but don't force them to come together behind the back with brute force), soles of the feet, thumbs and toes).

Slick women don't stop halfway when they want to tie the last two with leather cord - if in doubt, try it).

What exactly to use for binding is a matter of taste. Quirks like the straitjacket or the Boy Scout suspenders aside: various couples use leather or rubber belts, elastic bands, scraps of clothing, a pajama belt, or thick, soft rope. Belts are most comfortable for women who are not too strong or too dexterous when tying sea knots. They need holes through half an inch. Triangular bandages are very convenient for quickly tying arms and legs, but they do not look too sexy: the neatness of the "package" and its "tortuosity" excites the active partner.

Old stockings are a favorite resource, but they are damn hard to untie quickly in a pinch. Chains, handcuffs, etc. - fast, but do not create the necessary compression and it hurts to lie on them. When they are closed, you cannot hope that you will be able to quickly open them. The creepy machines sold by adult-toy manufacturers are only good for "birds" or for posing in for photographs. If you like them, make your own.

For most ordinary couples, a skein of linen is sufficient. Cut strips 4 feet long - 5-6 pieces and a couple of 6-foot strips, and wrap them around, adjusting the tension with your hand, but do not tighten until bruised.

Some energetic people also like to be gagged. As one lady said, "It keeps the bubbles in the champagne." Shutting up and being shut up excites most men, most women openly abhor the prospect, but the look of erotic surprise on a well-plugged woman's face when she finds she can only meow is irresistible to the violent instincts of most men.

In addition to the symbolism and "feeling of helplessness", this allows the subject to squeal and bite during orgasm, which helps complete freedom, unless you are provided with a rhinoceros skin or live in a soundproof room. This makes prompting impossible, so your partner's initiative is out of your control.

Most men who get turned on by this kind of play love to be completely silent. Courageous women often love it after a few tries, if they're biting or love the feeling of helplessness, others hate it and lose their orgasm in the process. Some people like to be blindfolded while doing this, or instead.

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Dangerous Liaisons: How to Tie a Woman Properly

FURFUR spoke in detail about the tradition of kidnapping a woman a few months ago. Then the readers were convinced that this ritual is not a half-forgotten fairy tale of Caucasian grandmothers, but a quite common and very effective practice in many countries of the world. As you know, it is impossible to cook scrambled eggs without breaking the eggs, which means that since we decided to steal it, we need to tie the girl.

In this material, the editors understand in what situations it may be necessary to tie a girl, as well as how to do it best, and gives several high-quality and not so examples from popular culture. Surely everyone can have their own reasons for using this skill, but we still hope for your decency.

Hands tied in front

Legs tied to knees

Hands tied behind back

How did you deal with it

Caucasian captive, 1966

Tie Me Up 1990

Ricky skillfully took advantage of the environment - in order to deprive the girl of the opportunity to move, he simply tied her to the bed. A few loops on the legs and arms - and now it makes no sense to call for help. As a result, the captivity only benefited the girl - she fell in love with her kidnapper and went to him (which, although fiction, can serve as some argument in a dispute about linking with feminists).

An excellent example of how to tie girls without unnecessary wisdom: the mouth is sealed, the arms are twisted behind the back, the ankles are closed and tightly pressed against each other. In this position, the girls can only roll on the floor. The main thing is to watch if they have hidden a knife, a pin or any other sharp object in their sleeve.

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How to tie a girl at home

Indeed, marine life is inconceivable without the knowledge of a certain set of knots, each of which serves a specific purpose and can become an effective tool in the hands of a skilled knotter. Once upon a time, the skill of a rigger was valued on a par with experienced navigators. Maritime companies hunted for specialists in knots, and on a ship such a person was valued much more than an ordinary sailor. Today, the skill of knotting is slowly becoming a thing of the past, but even the most basic skills of this ancient craft - knitting sea knots - can be invaluable in different situations. Here are 10 knots that are indispensable both in the sea crossing and in everyday life.

This knot was used by the ancient Egyptians as early as three thousand years BC, as well as the ancient Greeks and ancient Romans. A straight knot is two half-knots, sequentially tied one above the other in different directions. If the load on the connected cables is very large or the cables are wet, the knot is strongly tightened, but even wet and tightly tightened, it is untied very simply, in 1-2 seconds.

It has long been considered one of the most reliable knots for tying cables of different thicknesses. Having eight weaves, the flat knot never tightens too much, does not creep and does not spoil the cable, since it does not have sharp bends, and the load on the cables is evenly distributed over the knot. After removing the load on the cable, this knot is easy to untie.

This classic knot forms the basis of a dozen other, more complex knots for various purposes. It can be used as a stopper at the end of the cable (unlike a simple knot, it does not damage the cable even with strong pull and can always be easily untied) or, for example, for rope handles of a wooden bucket or tub. You can even fasten the strings to the tuning pegs of violins, guitars and other musical instruments with a figure eight.

It is used when you need to tie two loops at one end at once. For example, to lift a wounded person, his legs are threaded into loops, and with the root end (when knitting knots, they act as the so-called running ends of the cables, and those ends around which the running ends are wrapped are called root) around the chest under the armpits a half-bayonet is knitted. In this case, the person will not fall out, even if he is unconscious.

Improved Dagger Knot

It is considered one of the best knots for tying two large diameter cables, as it is very simple in its scheme and quite compact when tightened. When tightened, the two running ends of both cables stick out in different directions. The dagger knot is easy to untie if you loosen one of the extreme loops.

It is a strong and easily untied loop at the end of the cable, being tied in a figure eight on a cable folded in half. The Flemish loop is suitable for knitting on both thick and thin cables. It almost does not weaken the strength of the cable. In addition to maritime affairs, it can also be used for fastening the strings of musical instruments.

In fact, this is the same figure eight, but tied with two ends. The Flemish knot is one of the oldest maritime knots used on ships to connect two cables, both thin and thick. Even when tightly tightened, it does not damage the cable, and it is relatively easy to untie it.

For five thousand years of the existence of shipping, people could not come up with a more reliable knot for tying an anchor rope to an anchor than a fishing bayonet. This knot, proven by centuries of experience in marine practice, can also be safely used in all cases when working with cables when they are subject to strong traction.

This type of marine knot is designed to increase the diameter of the cable to prevent it from slipping out of the block, as it does not slip and holds securely. To make the stop knot even larger (for example, when the diameter of the hole through which the cable passes is much larger than the diameter of the cable), you can tie a knot with three loops. It can also come in handy when you need to make a convenient handle at the end of the cable.

It has long been one of the most indispensable units in the sailing fleet. Logs were tied with a noose in the water for towing, it was used to load objects cylindrical in shape, rails and telegraph poles were loaded. Moreover, this knot, proven by centuries of experience at sea, has long been used on the shore - it is not for nothing that in many foreign languages ​​\u200b\u200bit is called a "forest knot" or "log knot". The noose with half bayonets is a reliable and very strong knot, which is extremely tightened around the object being lifted.

Also watch the training video on 10 interesting and useful knots in everyday life

If you are interested in FISHING Knots, then watch the video below

The methods collected in a single video will allow you to learn the essentials for fishing in a short time. This video can also be useful if you are already fishing and you need to get on your phone with the Internet to the only video clip that has almost everything you need. It is also useful that this video is not very long and you can quickly find the necessary node in it, even viewing it from beginning to end.

00:00 How to tie a hook;

05:46 How to tie a leash to a solid fishing line like a leash;

09:24 How to tie a leash to the end of a fishing line;

13:12 How to tie a second leash to the main line or how to tie a hard line with a soft braided line (braided line, or how to tie a soft thin leash to a hard thick line;

16:31 How to tie a fishing line end-to-end;

18:45 How to tie a fishing line to the drum of a fishing reel;

20:50 Double fishing knot

23:14 How to make a reliable loop for fishing tackle;

24:55 How to make a loop for a sinker or how to tie a sinker

26:05 UNI universal knot

It is believed that the art of erotic bondage came to Europe from Japan, where it is called "shibari". Naturally, Japanese shibari is not just sex fun, but a whole philosophy. We will not go far and tell you a little about this technique.

The tradition of tying women originated in Japan, a country known for its quirky relationship culture. Since ancient times, the rope in Japan has been given special importance, considering it a symbol of the connection between man and God. Most of the jewelry was tied with a rope, and almost all elements of clothing were tightened with it.

In the XV-XVI centuries, when the country was torn apart by feudal wars, a special technique for tying captives appeared - hojo-jutsu. The bottom line was that the nodes were located at special points of the body, with the help of which it was possible to achieve complete paralysis of the enemy’s body or even his slow strangulation.

During the Edo period (1600-1868), when the wars ended and the period of economic prosperity began, the tradition migrated to the everyday life of the Japanese. It was then that the first theatrical performances began to appear, in which specially trained masters tied the girls for the fun of the public. A little later, special clubs began to open, where the art, called shibari, began to spread actively. Shibari masters have always been distinguished by the fact that they emphasized the skillfulness of the harnesses and theatricality of actions, so that an untrained person would never be able to repeat their work.

First, the binding must be loose. The rope should not dig into the hands, pinch the veins and put pressure on the bone on the wrist.

Second, the knot must be rigid so that the loop does not tighten, otherwise the rope will pinch the veins and will not deliver any pleasure.

The main requirement The rope must be natural (not synthetic), with a diameter of 5–6 mm. Hemp, jute are suitable, but synthetics, as a result of any sudden movement, leave a burn on the skin. The only problem is that you can’t find the ideal rope for this kind of procedures in our country during the day with fire - craftsmen order their equipment from Japan or Europe. You may be lucky in the household market or in the same store. 4 meters is more than enough for you.

In order to properly tie a girl, it is not necessary to study books, this is primarily a philosophy and a creative approach. In my opinion, it's always fun to try something new, and I find Japanese bondage aesthetically appealing.

The most important thing is the beauty of the lines. It is enough to learn how to make a few knots, and everything else is your imagination.

The quality of the rope and its tension are of great importance, it should hurt, not sag, but force the body to be in tension. The pain threshold here is the limiter. But in general, everything is very individual and in each case is unique.

Hands tied in front

The rope folded in half is pulled into the stirrup loop. After that, the loop is put on the closed palms of the girl. The loop is tightened, then the ends are tied with a simple knot. In a similar way, you can tighten, if necessary, and one hand.

Legs tied to knees

The stirrup loop is put on the leg. After that, the captive's legs are bent at the knees, and the rope is made several turns around the ankle. The rope is held under the coil and begins to encircle the leg in the opposite direction. The final strapping ends with a knot.

Hands tied behind back

A loop tied with a stirrup knot is threaded into the left hand. After that, the rope goes over the left shoulder, encircles the chest and reaches the right wrist. The main thing here is to pull the rope harder to fix the position of the hand. Then it goes around the right hand and is carried out in the opposite direction, close to the previous turn. The rope comes to the left wrist and is similarly fastened there. The operation is repeated several more times, then the rope is fixed with a knot on the right hand.

Tied feet

The ankles are crossed, after which they are connected by the same stirrup knot. The rope wraps around the lower leg several times and is fixed with a knot just below the knees. The rest of the rope is pulled between the legs and down to the first knot. Then the rope again goes between the thighs, but in the opposite direction. After several turns, the rope is knotted. The main thing is to pull the rope all the time so that the legs are pressed as tightly as possible to each other.

Why do girls like it?

1) Why not? Any girl is attracted by the aesthetics of the process. A young strong female body in intricate fetters, leather, candles, leashes. Beautiful, nothing to say.

2) Any girl would like to do something unusual, to break the pattern, first of all to herself. Get rid of the complexes, of which there are many. Feel beautiful.

3) They like to trust their man. But humility in this case is not equal to weakness, because a man does exactly what she herself would like.

And finally, a little humor: How they dealt with it in the movies

CAUCASUS CAPTIVE, 1966

Coward, Dunce, and Experienced seem to have first-hand knowledge of the shibari culture, or have randomly reproduced this Japanese technique. All loops neatly encircle the captive, and in the end they are skillfully tightened on the chest. It turned out to be very reliable: Nina, no matter how much she resisted, could not get out, and even Shurik needed a lot of effort to untie at least one of her hands.

Nastenka was tied up in an old-fashioned but quite reliable way: they wrapped loops around a tree in the forest. Perhaps the methods of the villagers will seem a little clumsy, but they certainly work flawlessly.

The villains primitively tied Lai's hands, sealed her mouth and placed her in a bag. Some freedom in movements, which the bandits thoughtlessly left to the captive, eventually saved her life: having noticed the moving load, the protagonist found her.

Alexander Medvedev/Natalia Kravchuk

The height of the working day, somewhere outside the window, the city is routinely swarming. I hang from the ceiling, tied with a thick rope around my arms and legs, and I hear someone nearby offering to add hot wax to me or a couple of blows with a whip

No, they don't torture me. I asked you to do this with me. I try shibari - the Japanese art of bondage, one of the components of BDSM.

What is shibari

In the famous film Prisoner of the Caucasus, a simple Soviet student Shurik saves his beloved, the same simple Soviet student Nina, from a trio of bandits. In one of the scenes, Shurik tries to free her, tightly tied with ropes. It would seem that this is nothing special. However, some people have long noticed a special meaning in this. Nina's body is not just randomly tied - it is neatly girded with ropes and wrapped in knots with a pattern that is one of the "classic" shibari techniques.

Today, many may have heard of shibari from Japanese films. Often this technique is associated directly with the culture of BDSM and it is assumed that "games" with ropes do not go anywhere beyond the bedroom. In fact, these are not toys at all, but a serious and unsafe occupation. And in the last couple of years, it has gained wide popularity in Ukraine.

One of the hypotheses says that shibari takes its origin from the technique of hojo-jutsu. In the 15th-16th centuries, it was used to quickly and reliably immobilize the enemy: it was used to escort prisoners, arrest criminals, and even as torture - knots located at certain points could put pressure on the nerve centers and cause the prisoner particularly severe pain.

Later, technology began to acquire aesthetic meanings. The word "beautiful" gradually came to the fore. Both concepts should be distinguished. Shibari - the purpose of which is to get pleasure without harming the partner. Hojo is a combat technique aimed at effectively immobilizing an opponent. And they don't really care about health. For this, there is a wide variety of knots, special ropes, dozens of ways of tying and individual techniques - depending on who exactly needs to be tied and why.

In the modern world, shibari is already popular far beyond Japan as the art of aesthetic-erotic bondage and a component of BDSM culture. The main accents are made on the beauty and complexity of the patterns, as well as on the emotional and bodily sensations of the binder.

Shibari is not necessarily a way to diversify the sexual life of partners, as it seems to many. It is a practice with much broader meanings behind it. Moreover, often after tying, suspension follows. If you want to experience something like this, it is better to go after it to a specially trained person, but in no case be zealous at home. An important ingredient is trust. Giving yourself into the hands of a person, you need to understand whether he is competent enough in what he does and whether he will harm. The master who does the bindings is called the rigger. There are quite a lot of them in Ukraine.

How does this happen

Of course, you will not find an ad offering to tie and hang on every post. But there are more options than you might think at first. For example, master classes and trainings are periodically held in Kiev and Kharkov for those who want to learn this skill, parties with demonstration performances, and at the end of this month a two-day festival is even planned for shibari lovers. Semi-closed meetings are also held, something like an interest club - such a “circle of macrame lovers”, only for real. Again, getting there "from the street" is not easy. But if you get there, they will happily tie you up and hang you up, tell you, show you and give you new impressions.

As a rule, there is an unspoken rule at such events - do not take photos and videos without the consent of all participants, or so that others do not get into the frame. BDSM is not about picking daisies in a field, after all, the reaction of others can be ambiguous. It is also not worth distracting the master and model from the process.

By the way, about the reaction. Usually, those who "passed by" perceive bindings as something very perverted and sophisticated. Because aloud from many you can hear comments like: "Perverts" and "There is nothing more to do." But when I posted a photo from one of these meetings on my facebook, a variety of people began to write in personal messages. “Where can I try it?”, “Is it expensive?”, “Is it really possible in Kiev? I've been dreaming for a long time" - that's what they asked. That is, it turned out that there are quite a lot of people who want to experience one of the popular BDSM practices in their own skin.

After a general meeting in the “club of interests”, I “rent” a rigger for a photo shoot in the studio. By the way, not every studio is suitable here either - for hanging it is important that there are hooks in the ceiling. Therefore, a great option is places where they do, for example, fly yoga. We go to the Alpha Gravity School studio - the alpha gravity complex that they practice there is also built on exercises in the air.

Rigger Ivan has been practicing binding for two years now. During this time, I managed to learn from masters from Ukraine, Belarus, Russia, France, Germany, Belgium, Italy and was even lucky to take a couple of lessons from the Japanese Kinbakushi ( in Japanese terminology, this is the name of the master, from the word Kinbaku - a synonym for shibari. The ending "Shi" (Shi) means in this case a respectful appeal to a professional).

As in any other BDSM practice, during bondage, the principles of Safety, Reasonability and Voluntaryness must be adhered to. They will not do anything to you without your consent, break your bones or intentionally tighten with ropes until it is impossible to breathe. Therefore, in the process of tying Ivan periodically asks me questions: are my hands going numb, are the ropes too tight, is it comfortable for me. To some this may seem strange. But, in fact, a real master is able to connect a partner in completely different ways.

You can make it hard, so that the ropes dig in - for amateurs, you can put the model in the ropes, as if in a hammock, it will be soft and comfortable there, - says Ivan.

Before practice, he tunes in to the wave of the second person - it is important to feel the mood of the partner, to understand why he came and what sensations he longs for. Then he starts tying. Starts from the chest: puts my hands behind my back and throws ropes. Then he makes a pattern. They also vary in difficulty.

Someone comes for new emotional states. Some ask to be knitted for a photo shoot - in such cases it is more a picture than an emotional practice. Someone just likes to experience pain or feel control over their body, the master explains.

Feel

It is with pain that one of the sensations that I received during the bindings is connected. Nobody said it wouldn't hurt. The whole point is that with proper binding, it should not hurt "anyhow." It will hurt - but it is a pleasant and adjustable pain.

While the master is pulling the body into the ropes, the skin, unaccustomed to such an effect, resists. At some moments, it seems that the hands folded behind the back go numb. The pressure in the chest sometimes makes it difficult to breathe. This is where the notorious “pain” pops up. In fact, this is just a reaction of the body to unusual circumstances for it. If you wait and cross your pain threshold, the next feeling that comes is surprise. Because where it just seemed “painful”, now it doesn’t exist at all. And my hands are no longer numb either. It seems strangely pleasant: to face, it would seem, pain and immediately overcome it.

When the master finishes tying, he takes out large ringing carabiners and attaches them to the rope corset. Then he stretches out the ropes and with a deft movement lifts him up, hanging his "work of art" in the air, on a special ring under the ceiling. And now, you are already hanging like a fly caught by a spider in a web. Like an animal caught in a trap. The ropes begin to press again, because the body is not used to being tied and suspended at all. But then the pain goes away.

Ivan gently swings me, and I dangle from side to side. At this moment, there is a complete vacuum in my head. Not a single thought, not a single emotion. Only the feeling of a body rotating like an astronaut in some incomprehensible spaces. Then I thought that I would be able to turn off my brain like that as needed. At this moment, the rigger, like a true creator, enjoys his work. Now he moves away to look at everything from afar, then again he gets closer. He looks into my face, gently runs through the hair on my head, whispers something.

From a distance, it may seem that the harness is solid, and it takes a long time to unravel it. In fact, all parts can be "assembled" individually. For example, the master can bandage his hands if they are numb, while not untying the rest of the structure. In case the model needs to be released from the ropes very quickly, the master has scissors. For safety reasons, they take a first aid kit with them to all sessions.

You never know what he will do to you now: he will stroke your head or grab your hair to swing even more, lower you head down so that your face touches the floor, or tighten the ropes even tighter. Such a method of carrot and stick - you are completely at the mercy of another person and trust him. And he - then "regrets", then "torments". You may be asked: “Now imagine that I will leave now. What will you feel?" Get up and get out of sight. In fact, this is an interesting psychological reaction test. She is different for everyone.

The reaction is completely different. Someone gets excited, someone screams loudly or panics, they can laugh, while others, on the contrary, calm down and peace comes. This is how the emotions that have accumulated inside come out, ”says Ivan.

By the way, the masters can also have different motivations. Someone enjoys working on the smallest details, tying knots and creating beautiful intricacies, while others, on the contrary, enjoy the very process of immobilization. So sadistic inclinations are realized more than aesthetic ones.

From another point of view, shibari can even be considered a body-oriented practice aimed at obtaining new, sharp bodily sensations, at experiencing unusual emotional states. Those who come specifically for pain sometimes ask to add “colors” to the process: for example, they bring a whip or use wax from burning candles for a thrill.

The master removes and loosens the ropes from the suspension, slowly unwinds them. There are marks on the skin. They'll be down within the hour. The moment the knots untied and the pressure was gone, a feeling of exhaustion came over me. It’s like I just got back from a good run, did a lot of hatha yoga, or did my exercises. Or if I came in the evening after a hard day, during which I ran around the city and carried heavy bags. But this fatigue is pleasant, one in which you even want to stay a little. And the master gives such an opportunity. He can hug, stroke, soothe, or just sit next to him to even out the emotional state of the one who was just in his power. And lets go only when the world returns to normal again.