How to find peace of mind in everyday life. How to find peace of mind

Prayer is rest for the soul

A wonderful vacation for a person, my dears, is to devote even a little time in your life. If, after an exhausting day, a little time is devoted to it and a person frees himself to commune with the Spirit of God, the Holy Spirit, which is generous and abundant in the Church, then he will truly have a full rest. After all, rest is not when we sleep for a long time or make various trips. And this, of course, is also a rest for the body. But rest for the soul, spiritual rest, is much more important and significant. A person truly rests when he learns a living connection with God.

I say this because everyone notices how wonderful peace a person’s spirit finds during the holy services of the Church (as it was at the prayer canon to the Most Holy Theotokos, which we sang with you). How much these sacred troparia, composed by saints who had the experience of knowing the Holy Spirit and the presence of God in their hearts and who expressed precisely this experience in church music, troparia, and chants, help the human spirit to ascend to God and partake of the Holy Spirit. The Lord gives Him to those who seek and thirst for Him. All this gives us a true sense of the presence of God, relaxation, a true feeling, so to speak, of amusement and entertainment. I am absolutely sure that from one real, from one service, from one sacred rite in the temple space, you will rest in a way that it is impossible to rest in the best entertainment centers where people go - they leave them even more tired than they came, more nervous . Sometimes they get so excited that one kills the other.

And it’s strange to hear when someone says: well, today, when you can spend your nights in entertainment centers, people should be calm, joyful, smiling every day. Yes, as soon as they get out of bed, they press a button, turn on the radio, noise and din begin, they start singing along, and so from the very morning they wake up, they’re already on edge! Sometimes, before dawn, we drive down from the monastery by car and see how, at the slightest provocation, they shout, bully each other, swear, and are about to fight. And you ask yourself: what happened to them? It’s still only morning... well, after all, it would be evening... But it’s early morning, seven o’clock, they haven’t even opened their eyes yet, but they’re already on their nerves. Where were they? They may have spent the whole night in entertainment venues, where they left after spending too much, so that they returned home in an even worse state than they were the day before!

A man enters, an angel comes out

This does not happen in the Church. “,” St. John Chrysostom says in a beautiful word, “...do you want to know what the Church is and what is its miracle? It's very simple. Look around you or go into a church - and you will see that the church is a place where the wolf enters and the lamb comes out. You enter the church as a wolf and leave as a lamb. You go in as a robber and come out as a saint, you come in as a wrathful man and you come out as a meek man, you come in as a carnal sinner and you come out as a spiritual man, you come in as a man and you come out as an angel.” And he corrects himself: “What am I saying: an angel?!” Is it just an angel? You go in as a man and come out as a god by grace!” This is what the Church is.

And indeed, this is an indisputable fact: a person in a church space, in an atmosphere of chants and prayers, finds serene peace. Because, as you know, in the Orthodox Church there are great services, and it is, first of all, Divine services, and the entire “therapeutic course” with which it affects people, the souls of people, is a course of treatment through divine services. I remember how people came to the Holy Mountain (and in general I noticed this throughout my entire monastic life) to live in the monastery. How wild they looked! Their faces reflected their inner savagery - a wild disposition, a wild look... After they spent a day or two on the Holy Mountain, in the monastery, attending services, then little by little the sweetness and meekness of God’s grace emerged on their faces. And despite the fact that they were just pilgrims, the Spirit of God still influenced them, they calmed down and acquired true peace.

And many said: we are going to the Holy Mountain, to the monastery, and even if we don’t get much benefit, we will at least get a great night’s sleep, we sleep so well in the monastery as nowhere else outside its walls, otherwise we can’t have any peace find nothing else. And not because there is silence in the monastery. There was silence in the world too. But because there was peace in the monastery, spiritual peace. This contrast was so sharp that it could be seen with the naked eye. Sometimes I made fun of them (some of them thought that we all on the Holy Mountain have the gift of clairvoyance and just look at a person, we see right through him)! But the saints could do it - and who are we?! And then one day, probably 25 people came. I tell them: “Do you want me to tell you now which of you came for the first time, and which of you have already been here?” They say: “Yes, father, tell us.” I looked at their faces - and indeed, from them it was immediately possible to identify those who were not on the Holy Mountain for the first time; they had different faces in comparison with the others. And I said: “There you are, you, you, you, you already were.” And he turned out to be right, he guessed everything! And so he partook of the glory of the seer! (Laughter.) Although he was like those fakirs, who in reality are charlatans!

God is a reliable support in life

Therefore, learn to eat God's blessing! Therefore, you need to learn to pray, my dears, because in your daily life, no matter how you look at it, you encounter many difficulties and disappointments, many are at a dead end. At least from my short communication with you, I see that you have many hopeless situations, problems, questions, and severe anxiety. And even the darkness that sometimes penetrates the youthful soul, and a person then does not know who he is, nor what he is doing, nor where he is going, nor what he wants - he knows nothing.

All this is cured when a person begins to pray. When a person begins to pray, he receives strength from prayer. there is light because God Himself is light. And the light of God begins to gradually dissolve spiritual darkness. And if sometimes darkness persists in a person’s soul, this happens because the good God, like a doctor, wants to heal the soul with humility, to teach a person to humble himself. And we need to learn to receive this strength in order to swim across the sea of ​​​​our life and overcome difficulties with reliable support.

Other supports that exist today: our common sense, our money, our health, our strength, another person, our neighbor, our friend, our girlfriend, our spouse, etc., are supports that are also good, but they not reliable because they are subject to destruction and change. People change, the world around us changes due to certain events, due to certain circumstances. The only reliable support, unchanging support, is faith in God. God never changes. He does not get lost, does not change, does not disappoint a person, never betrays him. God does not leave His works unfinished and half-done, but brings them to completion, because God Himself is perfect! So often when you face failures, especially now when you are studying, failures in exams, in classes, you need to learn this power of prayer to rise above failures, like an airplane flying above the clouds during a thunderstorm. He soars up and is not afraid of anything; the thunderstorm rages, but it does not reach the height where he flies because he has “strength” that allows him to overcome such situations.

Wish me luck!

And even more so in the Church, God gives strength not only to overcome ours, but also to derive spiritual benefit from these failures. And sometimes failure becomes the best of successes! Because it has such beneficial effects on a person’s soul, on his personality as a whole, which are often necessary for a person. I can say that it is imperative to learn to cope with failure. Failures are very important for a person. Everywhere we are wished “good luck”, but we need to be wished at least sometimes “good failure”, so that we know that we need to prepare for failures, and not get used to the fact that everything should be the way we want it. And as soon as the slightest obstacle arises, we run to psychologists and psychiatrists, our head is filled with the fact that we have “psychological problems.” Our head is filled with “psychological problems”, our pocket is filled with pills, and the psychologist’s pocket is filled with money. “45 minutes cost 15 liras,” he tells you! You know, some psychologists don't like me because I stole their clients! (Laughter.) When I heard about this, I was surprised myself - the day before yesterday a psychologist told me about a conversation that took place in his professional circle that some people had lost clients because of me. But this is a really dramatic situation: a person, drowning in his problems, comes to the doctor, and he looks at his watch. And as soon as 45 minutes are up, he says: “Look (and the poor guy is confessing his life to him), do you want to move on to the second hour? Do the math, otherwise stay in your abyss and come back another time!” Despite all this, we often turn to psychologists. Is there a need for this and what exactly is it? People pay to talk, they pay to be listened to. You can imagine what we have come to. That is, what a difficult situation people are in that they do this! And all because they lost communication with God.

Prayer shows the meaning of life

God asks us, urges us, begs us, compels us to talk with Him! Do you see what He says? Ask, seek, knock on the door - and it will be opened for you. Whatever you ask, God will give you. And if we learn to pray, then we will gain peace in our souls. And this spiritual peace is the force that prevents a person from drowning. Thus, a person who learns to pray understands very well what the meaning of his life is. He finds the meaning of life, and in this sense there is room for his failures.

Peace of mind and balance are very important for every person, because they indicate that everything is fine with a person, despite external circumstances. And finding such peace of mind and tranquility can be difficult. How to do it?

After all, this is not taught either at school, or at work, or in the family. But this is the basis of a person’s life, his Spirit, his Soul. And what a person will be like - calm or restless - depends on whether the person lives in accordance with certain laws of the Universe or violates them.

What is peace of mind and balance of a person?

In this life, each person lives according to certain programs laid down by society, parents, friends and acquaintances, watching movies and reading books.

As a result, a person reacts by inertia to current events in accordance with established stereotypes. That is why there is mental anxiety, mass fears, condemnation or rejection of anything happening in the world around us. So what is peace of mind and balance of a person? How to achieve it?

And all a person needs is to think about who he is, why he lives and where he aspires. And when he understands that his personality, his consciousness and ego were created for the purpose of evolution and development, then his thoughts will be calm, his Soul will be calm.

There will be joy in the Soul because a person helps it accumulate positive and blissful experiences. When a person lives in vanity, when his thoughts are chaotic, this indicates that there is no unity of his Soul with his personality. Then there is nothing to talk about peace of mind and balance.

In addition, there are or Laws of God, which are given not only to man and humanity as a whole, but also to the entire Universe for development and evolution. And when the Soul becomes primary in a person, and his personality, ego and consciousness follow it, then the person walks through life calmly and can control his life, his destiny.

Such a person is both in good health and in good spirit. When a person has problems with mental balance, when his psyche is unstable and his thoughts are chaotic and chaotic, this means that a person lives, first of all, by his personality, and not by his Soul.

There is even such a thing as personality cult and idolatry. This is when a person, instead of living by the Soul, chases after external things, creating a cult of clothes, things, food, and it can also be anything: computer games, rock stars, fans at the stadium and much more.

However, the Soul is always primary, and the body and its personality are created precisely by it for the development of man.

And therefore, in order to find peace of mind and balance, you need to love yourself, your Soul, that inner self that exists constantly. When a personality follows the Soul, it begins to live harmoniously and manifest itself in accordance with the Laws of God.

Then a person will gain peace of mind, because the tasks of the Soul are fulfilled, the person develops and inner peace and joy appear.

This does not mean that you need to abandon the material world, you just need to live in it in harmony and balance. If you perceive the world around you as a gift from God, a gift from your Soul, and treat everyone you meet as a piece of your Soul, a piece of God, then you will have inner peace of mind, balance and harmony.

How to find peace of mind

There are people who don’t read newspapers, don’t watch TV, and of course they don’t know about disasters and terrorist attacks and aren’t interested in them. Such people are considered soulless and callous.

Although in fact it is they who maintain and maintain balance and harmony on Earth, without getting involved in human negativity and without showing negative thoughts and emotions that settle as low energies in earthly space.

How to find peace of mind? There is a simple way to be calm and not show hostility towards people around you. When you meet a person on your way who causes irritation, you need to imagine that this person is your child, albeit not very well-mannered, but still your own child, and send him love.

Then you will have inner peace, you will find peace of mind, and the world around you will also change for the better. And of course, you need to know such things that the Soul, as a particle of God or Spirit, represents the Unity of everything that exists in the Universe, creating everything in the Universe.

And here it is important to understand that mental anxiety is created by an immature personality, the human mind and ego. Because they contain old patterns, patterns of behavior and ways of thinking. In other words, there is inherent duality or division based on the struggle for survival.

Therefore, the mind and ego want to control a person, to be his master. As a result, a person divides those around him into friends and strangers, into dark and light, in other words, he fights for his survival. However, he does not need to survive, he is already eternal, because his Soul is eternal.

A person’s ego and mind exalt him, increasing his importance, vanity, and pride. The ego says that you are beautiful, priceless and don't care about other people. In this case, you need to fill your ego with love, tell it that you want to live according to the laws of the Soul, according to the laws of God or Spirit.

The ego will not want to lose you and will begin to serve you, rather than you serving it. And when the ego serves you, serves your Soul, then there will be harmony between the personality, ego and Soul. You will find peace of mind and peace of mind.

There will be no mental anxiety, because development will take place, consciousness will expand, you will understand that the world around you is a part of yourself.

A person lives for a long time in separation from his Soul, from God. That is why all the worries, illnesses, fears and despondencies. Now we need to learn to live in a new way, according to the Laws of God or the Universe, striving towards God, having lofty and good goals and intentions based on universal Love.

Love and peace are inseparable. Love is not possessing another person. This is a state of harmony with the whole world and, above all, with yourself. This is the confidence that you are moving in the right direction. If we seek love, we find peace of mind, and if we strive for peace, we find love.

Above all, peace is balance

The number one challenge for people doing martial arts is to maintain balance. Once you start practicing karate, you will learn that strength comes from balance and a cool head. Once you add emotions, your song is sung.

Balance and peace of mind are the sources of our self-confidence. Calm does not mean sleepy! Calm is managing power, not resisting it. Calmness is the ability to see the big picture without focusing on the details.

If you want to protect yourself from all adversities, you have chosen the wrong planet

Peace and confidence can only be found within yourself. There is no stability in the world around us; everything around is in a state of eternal variability. How can we cope with the unpredictability of life? Only by accepting it!

Tell yourself: “I love surprises. It’s great when you know that something unexpected can happen at any moment.”

Make a decision: “No matter what happens, I can handle it.”

Make an agreement with yourself: “If I get fired, I will find a job with a more flexible schedule. If I get hit by a bus, I won't be here anymore."

This is not a joke. This is the truth of life. The earth is a dangerous place. People are born and die here. But that doesn't mean you have to live like a cowardly rabbit.

How to achieve peace of mind?

To find peace of mind, first of all, you need to change your worldview. The habit of giving yourself a break every day can also help with this.

People who have achieved peace of mind often perform certain rituals. Some pray, others meditate, some walk along the seashore at dawn. Everyone finds their own way of relaxation. This helps us better understand ourselves and understand the world around us.

Life will remain a struggle if we insist on it

Modern Western civilization has taught us to constantly strain ourselves. I don’t argue with the fact that “you can’t pull a fish out of a pond without difficulty.” But before we start doing anything, we need to stop fighting everything and everyone. We grew up believing in resistance. We tend to push events and push people. We exhaust ourselves, and this does more harm than good.

Why is relaxation needed?

Almost everything we do in life is a race for results. But deep relaxation, meditation or prayer help us take a fresh look at life. We expect that the future will give us many pleasant moments. However, our attention must still be focused on the present.

As we practice deep relaxation, we will begin to notice that some of the qualities acquired through the exercises gradually become habits and change our daily life. We become calmer, we have intuition.

We all have an inner voice, but it is weak and barely discernible. When life gets too hectic and noisy, we stop hearing it. But as soon as we muffle extraneous sounds, everything changes. Our intuition is always with us, but often we do not pay any attention to it.

Lots of people go through this cycle. From this we can conclude: “If you don’t have time for relaxation, it is absolutely necessary for you.”

Meditation will save you more time than you spend on it. Make it a habit - tune yourself like tuning a musical instrument. Twenty minutes every day - so that the strings of your soul sound clean and harmonious. Wake up every morning with the intention of being calm and balanced. Some days you will be able to hold out until the evening, and sometimes you will only be able to hold out until breakfast. But if maintaining peace of mind becomes the goal, gradually you will learn this art.

Forces of nature

Have you ever noticed that you can wander in the forest all day and feel an influx of energy? Or spend the morning at the mall and feel like you've been run over by a truck? Everything around us vibrates, be it grass, concrete, plastic or polyester. We catch it. Gardens and forests have a healing vibration - they restore our energy.

The vibrations of concrete shopping centers are of a different type: they suck up energy. The vibration of cathedrals is directed upward. You'll lose the lion's share of your vitality in smoky bars and strip clubs.

It doesn’t take a genius to understand: our health and attitude depend on the elusive energy of the environment. When we are full of energy, we can easily resist illness and the bad mood of others. If energy is at zero, we attract depression and illness.

Greetings, deserted corner...

It is no mere coincidence that cultures around the world have a tradition and reverence for solitude. During the period of initiation, both the American Indian and the African Bushman left their tribes, hiding in the mountains or forests in order to understand their destiny.

The great Teachers - Christ, Buddha, Magomed - drew inspiration from solitude, as did the millions of monks, mystics and seekers of truth who followed in their footsteps. Each of us needs such a treasured place where phones don’t ring, where there’s no TV or Internet. Let it be a nook in the bedroom, a corner on the balcony or a bench in the park - this is our territory for creativity and reflection.

Everything is one

Since the 17th century, science has had Sir Isaac Newton's method: if you want to understand something, break it into pieces and study the pieces. If this does not add clarity, divide into even smaller parts...

Eventually you will get to the bottom of how the universe works. But is this true? Take a Shakespeare sonnet and break it down into nouns, prepositions and pronouns, then break the words down into letters. Will the author's intent become clearer to you? Lay out the Mona Lisa into brush strokes. What will this give you? Science works miracles, but at the same time it dissects. The mind breaks things down into parts. The heart collects them into one whole.

Health and well-being come when we look at the world as a whole. This fully applies to our body, our lives, and all of humanity.

Do you need a more effective way to find peace of mind?

If not, then you are in the minority, since most people live with stress constantly and have forgotten what it means to feel calm.

Problems of modern man

Yes, this is not a joke. The Psychology Association estimates that 77% of people have physical symptoms associated with chronic stress. And if this happens, peace is very far away.

We must get back to basics. And we must have priorities. The main thing you need to do is inner peace. And we must find out exactly what needs to be done to achieve such a state.

What can we do right now?

It is for this purpose that I offer several ways to help you regain your peace of mind. This list contains both internal and external actions that you can do that will naturally bring you peace of mind.

Everything on this list is fairly easy to do, although many of these methods are based on scientific research. Enjoy!

55 Ways to Get Peace of Mind

1. Breathe to the count of four: hold your breath, count to 4, exhale, count to 4. Repeat.

2. Take a pen and write down your thoughts until the emotions begin to fade.

3. List three unrealistic expectations and let go of one of them.

4. Agree that life is quite complicated.

5. Continue to put your best effort into everything you do.

6. Write down the best three things you have in your life.

7. Tell a friend or loved one how much they mean to you.

8. Sit on the porch without doing anything. Repeat as needed.

9. Allow yourself to do nothing for a while.

10. Look at the clouds for a few minutes.

11. Look at your life from the outside and determine your attitude to what you see.

12. Expand your physical vision to see more and just watch everyone for a few minutes.

13. Give some amount to charity.

14. Imagine a protective bubble around you.

15. Place your hand on your heart and feel how it beats. Be glad that you are alive.

16. Massage the skin with a brush.

17. Try to have a positive attitude towards everything, no matter what happened during the day.

Besides...

18. Be grateful that you don't always get what you want.

19. Think about what you would do with your life if you knew you would never become rich.

20. Let your body do what it wants for a minute (nothing illegal, of course).

21. Smell the fresh flowers.

22. Listen to the critic inside of you, as if you were best friends.

23. Notice when you are tense and try to relax.

24. Press on the points of the brush surface for a few minutes.

25. Go outside and try to touch something 100% natural. Feel the texture.

26. Look around you. Try to understand how simple things really are.

27. Smile at the world around you while imagining what you look like.

29. Imagine roots that extend from your feet deep into the planet. You are connected to the center of the Earth.

30. Breathe deeply and slowly (this is the best relaxation).

31. Give yourself a massage with both hands and really feel it.

32. Understand that you always have great inner strength.

33. Count from 10 to 1 and imagine your inner strength after each number.

34. Feel the ground under your feet and realize that it is holding you.

35. Say to yourself: “I think...” and wait for the right thought. Repeat.

36. Stop worrying about other people.

37. Stop pretending that you don't care what other people think of you.

38. Dare to say no. If you have trouble with this word, teach yourself how to say it.

39. Decide that others must earn your trust.

40. Write a list of all the problems that concern you. Then discard those that you cannot control or are not responsible for.

41. Drink water (dehydration causes stress).

42. Start living within your means.

43. Understand the difference between your wants and your needs.

44. Apologize (to whom you know).

45. Think about the vastness of the Universe and understand how small your troubles are.

46. ​​Give up easy solutions to your problems and try to deal with them on a deeper level.

47. Spend some extra time with your child (beyond what was previously planned).

48. Listen to white noise (you'll see how relaxing it is).

49. Write down the best advice you ever received and apply it.

50. Groom your dog (bathe, brush, walk).

51. Close your eyes and let the sun warm your eyelids.

52. Allow yourself to admit your own mistakes.

53. Look at other people and understand that they are just like you: with their fears, hopes, dreams.

54. Accept that someone will always be smarter, richer and better than you.

55. Decide to start saving money. And be sure not to deviate from it in the future.