How to update the inscription on an old marble monument? When are the wreaths removed from the grave after the funeral according to church canons? When to erect a monument after a funeral

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Monument to Mikhail Kalashnikov, 2017

Monument to the Missing Soldiers Without Graves, 1995

By May 9, 2015, an error was corrected in the inscription to the monument "Missing soldiers without graves", installed on Poklonnaya Hill in Moscow 20 years earlier. Volunteers of the movement to combat errors on monuments and banners drew attention to the continuous spelling of “no news” back in February 2013. The monument, created by the Ukrainian sculptor Valentin Znoba, was received as a gift for the 50th anniversary of the victory from the people of Ukraine.

Monument "Grieving Soldier", 2017

Photo: Yulia Nalbandyan's personal page on Vkontakte

In May 2017, in Rostov-on-Don, on the eve of Victory Day, the monument "Grieving Soldier" was erected. In the inscription "To the liberators of the city of Rostov-on-Don, who heroically fought against the Nazi invaders during the Great Patriotic War 1941-1945 years "the townspeople discovered a mistake: a letter was missing in the word" heroically ". The sculpture was installed on the initiative of veterans of the Great Patriotic War on the territory of the Kumzhenskaya grove, where the ashes of more than 2 thousand soldiers are buried. The error was later corrected.

Memorial to the soldiers of the 6th Heroic Komsomol battery, 1959

In May 2012, a half-century factual error was corrected in the Memorial to the Soldiers of the 6th Heroic Komsomol Battery, solemnly opened in Murmansk back in 1959. The number of the artillery regiment was incorrectly indicated on the plate: instead of 143 there were 14.

Monument to soldiers who died in local conflicts, 2014

In August 2014 in Belgorod on solemn ceremony the opening of the monument to the soldiers who died in local armed conflicts, was discovered

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Hello, on the grave of the father, someone leaves handfuls of coins or a few pectoral crosses, on the monument, on the table, on the floor. Not for the first time. What does this mean and how to be? Thanks.

Tatyana

Tatyana. I do not know who is doing this and why, but I am sure that you do not need to be afraid of anything. Take the crosses to the church, and distribute the change to those in need.

Hieromonk Viktorin (Aseev)

Hello! Please tell me what to put on the grave of a relative, and what not? Is a cross enough, do you need a photo and other information about the deceased? They say that you need something like a monument with photos and data. Tell me what you really need

Yuri

Hello Yuri! First of all, there should be a cross on an Orthodox grave. For the memory of the living, you can hang a sign with the data of the deceased, a photograph. If you eventually wish to erect a monument, then the cross must still be present on it.

Priest Vladimir Shlykov

Good health. I wanted to order a new cross at the cemetery, because the old one had fallen, and they offered me to put a second cross, but I also need to buy it, only it is cheaper. These, they say, are those crosses that are removed to erect a monument. Is it possible to put such a cross at all?

Ekaterina

Catherine, of course you can. If it is expensive to put a new cross on the grave, put the one that is offered to you. On an Orthodox grave there should not be a monument, namely Orthodox cross.

Hieromonk Viktorin (Aseev)

Hello, is a photo required on the monument of the deceased?

Tatyana

Tatyana, an Orthodox grave must have an Orthodox cross, everything else (monuments, photos, etc.) is not at all necessary.

Hieromonk Viktorin (Aseev)

Good afternoon, father! In the Kharkiv region, a mother and her three children - 6 months, 6 years old and 7 years old - burned down during a fire. They were buried in two coffins: a mother with a 6-month-old child in one coffin, and children 6 and 7 years old in another coffin. And in the cemetery, instead of four graves, there are only two. How does the church treat such cases and is this acceptable at all? God bless you for the answer. Sorry to bother you.

Natalia

Natalya, yes, it is possible, there is nothing reprehensible here: remember, for example, the soldiers mass graves where many people are buried, and over the grave - one big monument or a cross. Moreover, it was the same with the early Christian martyrs - not always each of them was buried separately. Very often the bones of the martyrs, burnt in a furnace or torn to pieces by wild beasts, were buried by the pagans in one grave.

hegumen Nikon (Golovko)

Hello, tell me, please, is it true that earth from one grave cannot be poured onto another? The fact is that when the monuments to my parents were erected, the earth from the graves was mixed up. If this is a violation, how can it be corrected?

Lydia

Lydia, in the church there are no rules that would indicate that you can not take the earth from one grave to another. I don't think it matters. We all live on the same earth, under the same sun, and we all breathe the same air. Don't worry, there's nothing to worry about. The main thing is to pray for your dead, and visit church more often, confess and take communion.

Hieromonk Viktorin (Aseev)

Hello, father! Doesn’t the fact that on the grave of an Orthodox person, when installing a monument and a fence, the workers pulled out an oak cross, put it on the grave, filled it with concrete and laid paving slabs on top, does not contradict the Orthodox canons. (Upper corner erected monument there is a small Orthodox cross).

Gennady

Gennady, we Orthodox must live and die in the Orthodox way, and we must bury it strictly in the Christian way. The most important thing on an Orthodox grave is, of course, the CROSS. The cross should not be drawn, but it should stand to its full height. Tell me, why is there a monument to the deceased at all, if it is placed instead of the cross? It is not right. The cross should not have been taken out of the grave. The cross is our hope, our hope. And what is a monument - it is a soulless block of marble, which, unfortunately, many now put instead of the Cross. Cross on the grave Orthodox Christian should be mandatory, and not to lie but to stand!

Hieromonk Viktorin (Aseev)

Hello! Please answer two questions on Genesis. 1. Why does the Bible tell about the origin of man twice - once in the sixth [Gen. 1:23-29], and the second time on the seventh day of creation [Gen. 2:2-8] and [Gen. 2:15-24]? 2. Why is the creation/creation of man different on the sixth and seventh days of creation? Thank you!

Vladimir

Vladimir, there is no contradiction here, it's just the style of narration characteristic of such ancient monument like the bible. First, it talks about the creation of the world and man as well, and then in more detail about the origin of all things.

hegumen Nikon (Golovko)

Hello! Please answer my question. My grandmother died and the exact date we do not know her death, because she was found on January 12 in the morning, and this date was written everywhere, in documents and on the monument. But having compared some facts, we doubtfully, but came to the conclusion that she died on the afternoon of January 11th. How should we be now and when to do memorial days, a particularly important fortieth day? A very painful question for me. After all, we may be late (if I may say so) with the memorial day. Please help and thanks in advance.

Natalia

Natalia, if the most likely date of death is January 11, then remember in accordance with this date, and without embarrassment.

hegumen Nikon (Golovko)

Hello! Tell me, please, what would be right: to put a monument on the grave of an Orthodox with the image of a cross and a photograph of the deceased, or just a cross? If you just put a cross, then is it possible to place the image of the deceased on the cross, or is only a plate with a full name allowed? and date of birth and death?

Oleg

Oleg, a Christian should always have a Cross, both during life and after death. The cross on the grave must stand independently of the monument. You can put up a monument, as convenient, but the cross - separately. On the cross, it is better to make only the date and full name, and the photo separately. But you can make a tombstone with an inscription and a photo, and put the cross separately, it will be inexpensive.

Hieromonk Viktorin (Aseev)

Hello. Help, tell me what to do. Neighbors bring grave crosses from the cemetery and set them up in front of my windows. They also erected a monument with the image of the deceased. Earlier, my child suffered from the actions of these people - he had been in the hospital for more than a month, and when he was discharged, crosses appeared under the window. I cannot remove them. I live alone and have two small children.

Irina

What, however, "hard-working" neighbors you have come across, Irina! Their energy would be - yes, in a peaceful direction!
Don't be afraid, this whole circus won't hurt you. And for yourselves, stand strong in faith, live together with the Church, and come more often to Church Sacraments Grace will protect you, but the Lord will not leave His own! The apostle said, "If God is for us, who can be against us?" (Rom. Ch.8, v.31). And besides, you can turn to public utilities, and to the help of the law, because. It is unlikely that the law allows the installation of cemetery crosses taken from nowhere in a residential or public area.

hegumen Nikon (Golovko)

Hello. Thanks for all your replies. I had another question: they ordered a monument for the late mother, and my grandmother wanted (it’s good that they dissuaded her) in advance to make a monument to herself with a portrait and date of birth. Isn't it a sin to order a monument for yourself in advance? And another question: they say that young people should not wear fresh flowers to the cemetery, but only artificial ones - otherwise, allegedly, young people will die. Is it just superstition? And where do people get these nonsense? Thanks in advance for your answers!

Hello Julia! In Orthodoxy, there is a tradition during life to prepare a coffin and a cross for oneself. Many saints have done this, and there is nothing wrong with that. This is the remembrance of death, which should be in every Christian, especially the elderly. If the grandmother wants to order a monument, let her order if the relatives do not mind. Regarding flowers - definitely superstition. Fresh flowers in the cemetery - a symbol eternal life deceased. And superstitions are born from ignorance and unwillingness to study their faith.

Priest Vladimir Shlykov

In 2007 I installed a tombstone dead wife. The tombstone made of red granite depicts an Orthodox cross, a portrait of Tanyusha, a favorite flower - clematis and a stylized (unrecognizable) sculptural image of a little girl. The invested meaning is that my Tanya will be like a guardian angel to her granddaughter Alexandra, whom she loved very much. Now eldest daughter Anastasia insists on altering the monument. Advise, father, how to be.

Kozlovsky Vladimir Leonidovich

Of course, your daughter is driven by superstitious fear. The monument does not need to be altered, the plot can be reinterpreted. Look at the icon of the Dormition Mother of God, there the soul of the Mother of God is depicted in the hands of the Savior in the form of a little girl, so this figure on the tombstone can be interpreted as a symbolic image of the soul of the deceased.

Deacon Elijah Kokin

Hello, my name is Natalia, I'm from Kazakhstan. I had one question, but first a little background: my mother, to my great regret, has been gone for almost 5 years, she sang in the church choir and I grew up at the church (if I may say so) and now, I remember that my mother always she said that she did not want a monument to be erected after her death, she allowed us to erect only a wooden cross. She explained it, but I don’t remember how she explained it verbatim. Something said that on the Day of Judgment the cross would have to be carried, and the monument would not be able to be raised ... And my question is: is this described somewhere in the Bible? Where did mom get this idea from?

Natalia

Hello, Natalia.
Putting a wooden cross on the grave is pious Russian tradition. The simplicity of the material speaks of the lack of possession of the deceased.
Many bequeathed part of the funds and property to donate to those in need, and put a simple wooden cross on the grave.
On the other hand, in this way Christians confess their readiness to follow Christ and hope for the salvation of their souls. After all, the instrument of our salvation - the Cross of Christ - was wooden.
Perhaps one should not take literally the desire of mother on the day of judgment to carry a wooden cross, but of course, she wanted to have evidence that she carried her Cross through all the trials of earthly life.
Bless the Lord.

Priest Sergiy Osipov

Father, bless! On the grave of my father, curbstones were used for landscaping. I want to put a monument on the grave, and remove the curbstones. Can they be used on suburban area? Save me, God.

Oleg

Hello Oleg! These stones are your property, you can do with them as you wish. But personally, I would not take stones from the cemetery home.

Priest Vladimir Shlykov

At the burial of my mother 57 years ago, an Orthodox cross was erected. Now I want to erect a monument. Is it possible to replace or remove an old cross that has become unusable?

Alexander

Hello, Alexander! You can erect a monument with the image of a cross, and the old cross, so that there is no reproach, can be burned or sawn into pieces and burned again.

Priest Vladimir Shlykov

Hello! I really want to embroider our wedding portrait with my husband. Everything is ready for this. Mom, having learned about my desire, after a couple of days said that it was impossible to do this, that it was something like a monument during her lifetime. I was very upset, so I want to know if this is so, and is it possible to embroider a wedding portrait? Maybe you need to go to church before starting work and ask for blessings. Please tell me how to do it right?

Renovation of the inscription on a marble monument is a rather popular issue, since the strength of marble is much less compared to, for example, granite. However, there are also cases when marble statues of ancient times could survive to this day. This fact testifies to caring attitude to material and sculpture.

If you need to erect a marble monument, you should definitely familiarize yourself with the intricacies this material, since he is considered quite capricious. It requires special care and periodic restoration.

However, the restoration of the monument with the help of organizations specializing in this will cost a lot of money, which is why knowing various little things will help you keep the monument and your wallet in a decent form, since you can restore the monument with high quality on your own.

Marble certainly needs to be handled with care as it is a very fragile material, but it is well worth it. With the beauty of marble monuments, stelae, etc. nothing else can compare! A variety of colors and shining textures make each monument unique.

inscriptions

As usual, on tombstones there are inscriptions: full name deceased, dates of birth and death, sometimes some drawings, ornaments or words of grief. Also, a portrait of the deceased is often applied to the stone.

There are two generally accepted techniques for applying images and inscriptions to a monument: application with a special apparatus and acid. The first method is much more common, because it is easier.

With it, the necessary inscriptions are engraved on the material, and then they are painted with a special paint. The second technology is a little more complicated - this method is called etching.

Acid is applied to the stone in the right places, leaving behind colored traces.

How to restore the inscription on the monument yourself?

Even very well-made tombstones lose their beauty over time. appearance because of some external factors, so people often ask themselves: “How to repair a monument so that its appearance does not deteriorate for several years?”

On the Internet you can find a bunch of sites and forums that advise how to deal with this problem. Sometimes people who are ignorant of this write and advise such things that make your hair stand on end. In fact, everything is much simpler, the restoration of the monument on your own will not take much time, effort and, most importantly, money.

List of required materials:

• solvent;
• cloth (soft);
• special pigment or paint for working with stone (sold at any hardware store, like other materials);
• tassel;
• special fixative for the final layer.

So, for starters, with a damp soft cloth, you need to wipe the places where there are inscriptions from dust and dirt. Then wait until the marble surface is completely dry and wipe it with a solvent to remove excess grease from the monument. Since the solvent dries instantly, you can immediately get down to business. It is necessary to pay attention to the fact that special paint for stone has a difference from regular paint- dries very quickly, so you need to act just as quickly and confidently.

Choose the brush number according to the size of the inscriptions you want to update; It will be more convenient to use, of course, a fairly thin brush. After all the decals have been restored and the paint is completely dry, you can use a fixative as a final layer. This is optional, but it will help keep the lettering bright for a long time. The entire monument can also be covered with a fixing composition to protect it from external factors, including natural ones.

As already mentioned, marble is a rather capricious material, therefore, in addition to the restoration of the inscription, it is necessary to know the features of caring for the stone:

1. Entire flower beds or trees should not be planted near the monument, as they attract a lot of moisture, which adversely affects the safety of the marble. Also, the roots of large trees can grow under the monument and completely destroy it.
2. When caring for the monument, it is impossible to use the usual household chemicals(means for cleaning mirrors, bathtubs, toilet bowls, etc.). If you are unable to find special means you can just use a damp soft cloth.
3. Remember: hot objects can spoil the surface of the marble slab, so in no case do not put lighted candles or the like on the marble, otherwise you will not be able to do without a specialist.
4. Since marble is strongly affected by various natural factors, in winter it is possible to cover the monument with some kind of film or cover to protect it from severe frosts, winds and snowfalls.
5. If defects appear on the material (for example, cracks), do not rush to fix everything or panic. You can consult a specialist in the store or the manufacturer. They will help you find the right substance or tool to repair minor damage.